Love

Okay..This is a concept I’m very much confused about, but I’m trying to put down my thoughts anyway.. So if I’m wrong in any respect, just take it as the mumblings of an ignorant, inexperienced fool.

There are different kinds of love-love of a parent, of a sibling, of a friend, of a pet and of your better half.. But I don’t believe in anything called “unconditional love”. Its ‘cos love makes us feel good about ourselves.. Even a mother loves her child because he/she is a part of her being.. Being in love makes everything feel, smell and taste better.. So love is selfish.. The love under discussion here is the kind that exists between two individuals longing to be one.. The most confusing at that I must say. .That kind of love makes you wanna work very hard, to reach your level best because your lover deserves the best he/she can get and he/she makes you want to be a better person..You feel comforted at his presence & it may not be physical, tangible presence..Just a memory, a thought, or a word is enough.. A small comforting word from his part keeps your head above the rough waters & keeps you fighting against the tide. You see god in him..You feel safe and complete when he’s in your life..That person becomes the embodiment of all that is good in this world.. Makes you believe in the goodness left in you…That person is in your prayers, dreams, hopes and you want them in your future..

Many mistake infatuation for love..I feel love is more about the unity of soul rather than of body..But if the other person also feels loved, cared for and comforted in your presence, then it is love of the purest form and physical union acts as a seal of complete surrender to one other..But if the other’s life is better without you, you should get out as quietly as possible and without breaking anything on your way out.. I think that’s the honorable thing to do ‘cos you can still love that person without their knowledge..I’m not preaching stoicism here, but I believe that true love can flourish within you in any circumstances..even separation and unacknowledgement of its presence..Nobody can take that away from you..Men in love know that women are meant to be loved and not understood and women know that with men, the good comes with the bad and vice versa and you have to make the best of both..Love is a bridge built by two people that grows stronger with each day and with each passing storm..

I know all this sounds cliché..But I guess until I fall in love and experience the truth, this will be my truth..But as a person who’s reminded about AIDS and gingivitis rather than getting turned on on watching kissing scenes, the chances of me falling in love are slimmer than the latest L.G Flatron T.V..